Do this. Like actually do this.
I wake up every morning. I "slay" most of the time (when life doesn't slow me down) but I don't always pray. I was raised in church. I know the value of prayer. More importantly, I know the value in constantly working to be the best possible version of myself. Here continues my road of transformation.
I decided to start a 30 day #wakeprayslaychallenge to see just how the intention and action can positively impact my world and I want you to join me. Starting this morning (Saturday November 5, 2016):
I mind my own business. I don't stick my nose in other people's affairs unless it impacts me directly.
I try my best to avoid giving my opinion unless I'm asked, or I feel I can positively impact a situation in some way.
I'm I selectively discuss politics and religion. I respect others point of view even If I don't agree with it. I am sensitive to people's emotions and spaces.
Someone recently told me "you're not Oprah". In an insulting way. On one side I was down (it was said by someone who's opinion meant a lot to me), as if my work wasn't enough or that I shouldn't be proud of my progress and how I've overcome. On the other side though, the fact that I was compared to Oprah (someone I actually admire, always have), has been an inspiring push to work even harder. Test how far I can grow.
And share what I learn with the beauties in this Brown Skin Women Network. Oprah helped groom many of us into the women we are (and are capable of becoming). And for that I am thankful...for her sacrifice, struggles and admirable progress. And for paving the way.
For the person who tried to belittle me, well, people will do and be all that they are capable of doing and being. When we know better we do better.
I imagine these are words I will never forget. And while it did hurt me for a while, it now makes me feel proud because I am in fact at a place Oprah was at the start of her journey. And I wont give up.
I am now at a place in my life where I recognize the essence in my own mental wellness and protecting myself from the blows of the world and the people in it. And I won't give up. I will continue to protect my magic.
My space is peaceful, my thoughts are my own and my heart is happy. I am enough.
Black Woman...YOU Are Enough.
Never, ever forget that. I sure won't.
Until next time,
A Black Woman, Nothing Else
By Annie Ruth
There used to be a time when
I was ashamed of my skin.
I received tormenting jokes
from all of my friends.
Of course it wasn't done
to make me feel this way
But being black gave me much dismay.
"African, charcoal, Black Baby",
I would hear
But no one even noticed or knew
That I had silent tears.
Those names became nicknames and
I'd hear them everyday at school
‘Cause when I was young and growing up
I'd play by my peers rules.
One day when I was still young
My father left us all
And married a white woman
Who beckoned his every call.
I was really ashamed of my skin then,
I thought it was very bad,
I thought the white woman had something
Which I could never have.
But one day when I was still young
I met a black lady darker than I was,
She cherished and boasted that her
Color was a gift from above.
She told me that I was beautiful -
Something no one had ever done.
She said, "your skin is
So black and smooth-
Which shows the perfecting of the sun".
She said, "To match the pretty black skin
Your teeth are white as snow
And I'm sure that you will show them
Everywhere that you go".
Everyday she would tell me this
And her words began to spread.
They came from other people
I never even met.
The words of my friends changed to,
"Let me feel your face
And let me see you grin"-
For sister, you are beautiful-
Be proud of the color of your skin.
Now, I'm not ashamed of my skin
Though obstacles it may bring.
I proclaim to the world that I am
A Black Woman, the element of spring.
I blossom with happiness
And pride within myself
For I am A Black Woman
And I wish to be nothing else
According to The New Face of Depression: The Strong" Black Woman published by blackdoctor.org, the following are signs you may be suffering from depression:
Now that I have your attention, let’s talk about the fact that there are things that make us more alike than unalike. For instance, fighting our battles in silence.
I recently read an article entitled “Why do African Americans suffer in silence” and it struck a nerve. We all have secrets, we have all done things that we aren't proud of. I have battled, perhaps still battling, the issues that make me who I am. There have been familial and environmental issues exposed to me during my childhood, poor decision making and unfortunate circumstances. These issues could scar anyone. I’ve held it all in, yet blocked them out, I guess I suppressed them. This is a dangerous method of overcoming battles, its just another way to stumble over them.
So, what changed it for me? I believed in a higher power (for me, God) and praying, but I started weekly visits to my therapist. How in the world do you overcome obstacles without proper guidance? I not only tapped into my faith from the God of the universe, but I got direction from someone on the outside looking in, someone who could be objective. You will need someone to help you find and make peace with your past so it no longer impacts your present and future. They will help you understand what you’re going through while you are going through it without judging you. I will let this pill absorb in your system for now. Until next time...XO.
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